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Welcome to the Selfish Giver blog! If you’re used to taking care of everyone else, except yourself, you’re in the right place.
Here, we focus on a different approach to health for nurses & moms. One that focuses on rest, supports your nervous system, & makes feeling better simple and doable. And dare we say it, enjoyable even.
Why Your “Biggest Weakness” Might Actually Be Your Greatest Strength
Have you ever been told you are “too sensitive,” or that something about you is a weakness? Let’s consider instead, is this trait really a weakness? Learn how to reframe it into a strength you can actually use to serve you, and others.
Don’t Set New Year’s Resolutions
It’s OK not to set New Year’s Resolutions, even with all the hype. Here we are in February and most people have already dropped their Resolutions, no shame in that. Instead of trying to force yourself to set giant goals during the magical slowness of winter, ask yourself these powerful questions instead. They will set you up for a much more amazing 2026.
Do you believe more in your obstacles, or more in your goals?
We often allow our brains to spend more time thinking about why we can’t do something, instead of spending time thinking about why it might be possible we can achieve our goal. Do you want to be someone who believes in her obstacles, or believes in her goals?
On Becoming A Selfish Giver
Growing up we are told it’s selfish to think of our own needs. While it’s true we do need to think of others and care for them, it’s not true that we need to burn ourselves out in the process. We can do both, care for others and ourselves. That is what it means to be a Selfish Giver.
5 Surprising Health Benefits Of Having A Mom-Hobby (A Mobby?)
Hobbies are more rewarding than just having something fun to display. Research has shown that having a hobby can improve your mood, lower stress, and even increase longevity. Doing activities you find enjoyable lowers stress hormones and helps regulate the nervous system. Two things that have a powerful impact on your health.
If “Self-Care” Makes You Cringe, Try This Instead
Self care is critical for our mental and physical health. We need new ways to think about self care so we can start to feel better without feeling guilty or selfish. Follow these steps to begin taking care of yourself while you continue caring for everyone else, too.
Create Your Powerful Health & Wellness Vision
Creating your vision for health means getting specific about who you want to be and what you want to grow into in this one life. If you are looking for a first step you can take on your journey to a life of wellness, start here.
Forgetting To Take Care Of Yourself, Too
Most of my clients come to me with some version of: “I’ve been so busy taking care of other people, my kids at home, my parents, my patients at work…that I forgot to take care of myself!” It can feel very uncomfortable to start doing things for yourself after years of caring for others, but it can be done.
Stop the Spiral
Many of our thoughts are old and habitual, and many of these thoughts were placed into our brains long ago in childhood. But do they help us feel good in our brain and body today? This post walks you through a simple process to break the spiral and replace old thoughts with ones that serve you.
Change Your Life
I wasn’t actually doing much with all the knowledge about health I’d gained. There were many days where I felt overwhelmed with the amount of information available. Information overload led to paralysis in actually taking action toward getting healthy. That’s where a Coaching program came in to help me get started.

