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Welcome to the Selfish Giver blog! If you’re used to taking care of everyone else, except yourself, you’re in the right place.

Here, we focus on a different approach to health for nurses & moms. One that focuses on rest, supports your nervous system, & makes feeling better simple and doable. And dare we say it, enjoyable even.


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Acknowledge One Good Thing You Made Happen Today

As busy working moms too often we get trapped in the cycle of being hard on ourselves and focusing on what is not going well at work or at home. It’s crucial to remember to focus on the good things we are creating as well. Read on to learn one tool to improve the way you experience this one life.

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Health Sarah Wisniewski Health Sarah Wisniewski

Health Must-Haves vs. Nice-to-Haves

Popular media outlets lead us to believe that there is a magic bullet to health, and they have THE answer, which is usually taking their product. Many of the interventions to health we see online are nice-to-have, but do not move the needle as powerfully as the must-have foundational pillars of health: stress management, sleep, nutrition and movement.

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Stress Management Sarah Wisniewski Stress Management Sarah Wisniewski

What Is A Stress Management Coach?

We all experience stressors every day. But if these stressors build up in your body over time you start to experience the effects of chronic stress. Learn about how working with a stress management coach can help you develop a more positive relationship with stress, thus helping you feel better in all areas of life.

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Inner Health, Nervous System Sarah Wisniewski Inner Health, Nervous System Sarah Wisniewski

Don’t Set New Year’s Resolutions

It’s OK not to set New Year’s Resolutions, even with all the hype. Here we are in February and most people have already dropped their Resolutions, no shame in that. Instead of trying to force yourself to set giant goals during the magical slowness of winter, ask yourself these powerful questions instead. They will set you up for a much more amazing 2026.

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Sleep Sarah Wisniewski Sleep Sarah Wisniewski

How To Fall Asleep Quickly - & Stay Asleep

It may seem impossible to fall asleep easily without jolting awake at 3am with our brain trying to solve all the world’s problems. While we can’t hack our way to better sleep, we can put 5 lifestyle habits in place to start sleeping better, today.

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Inner Health Sarah Wisniewski Inner Health Sarah Wisniewski

On Becoming A Selfish Giver

Growing up we are told it’s selfish to think of our own needs. While it’s true we do need to think of others and care for them, it’s not true that we need to burn ourselves out in the process. We can do both, care for others and ourselves. That is what it means to be a Selfish Giver.

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If You Struggle to Relax, This is What Your Body Needs

Rest isn’t only about sitting down and resting your physical body. It’s about resting in your body as well as resting in your thoughts. We often feel guilty or selfish when we are trying to relax because our thoughts are getting in the way. Here’s how to change that and begin to actually feel better when you rest.

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Nursing Sarah Wisniewski Nursing Sarah Wisniewski

a nursing superpower: presence

We can’t underestimate the power of being with our patients. Listening to them or squeezing their hand. This story shares how listening to one patient’s struggles helped them through one of their most vulnerable experiences.

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Sarah Wisniewski Sarah Wisniewski

20 simple ways to improve your health today

All the small actions we take toward feeling better every day really do count in our body and the way our actual cells become healthier. It’s not about the big grand gestures like going to the gym once for 2 hours. It’s about getting back to the basic building blocks of health: movement, nourishing foods, rest, stress management, quality sleep, and social connections (give out all the hugs).

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Inner Health, Nursing, Nervous System Regulation Sarah Wisniewski Inner Health, Nursing, Nervous System Regulation Sarah Wisniewski

Forgetting To Take Care Of Yourself, Too

Most of my clients come to me with some version of: “I’ve been so busy taking care of other people, my kids at home, my parents, my patients at work…that I forgot to take care of myself!” It can feel very uncomfortable to start doing things for yourself after years of caring for others, but it can be done.

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My Awesome Kid Teaching Me To Do The “Inner Work”

For me it can be really tough to feel what we’ve been told are “negative emotions.” It’s been an ongoing practice to learn to feel emotions like sadness and anger in my body and then let them go. But the healing during this process has allowed me to feel greater “positive emotions” like peace, certainty, joy, elation, and contentment. And it was because of my son that I learned how to do this in the first place.

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