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Welcome to the Selfish Giver blog! If you’re used to taking care of everyone else, except yourself, you’re in the right place.
Here, we focus on a different approach to health for nurses & moms. One that focuses on rest, supports your nervous system, & makes feeling better simple and doable. And dare we say it, enjoyable even.
Why Your “Biggest Weakness” Might Actually Be Your Biggest Strength
Have you ever been told you are “too sensitive,” or that something about you is a weakness? Let’s consider instead, is this trait really a weakness? Learn how to reframe it into a strength you can actually use to serve you, and others.
10 Life Lessons About Consistency & Working Out
It can be really difficult to get into a consistent workout habit, but the benefits to your brain and body are so worth it. Read on for the reasons why I workout even when I don’t want to, and the lessons learned after hitting 200 classes at a Pure Barre Studio.
Acknowledge One Good Thing You Made Happen Today
As busy working moms too often we get trapped in the cycle of being hard on ourselves and focusing on what is not going well at work or at home. It’s crucial to remember to focus on the good things we are creating as well. Read on to learn one tool to improve the way you experience this one life.
Health Must-Haves vs. Nice-to-Haves
Popular media outlets lead us to believe that there is a magic bullet to health, and they have THE answer, which is usually taking their product. Many of the interventions to health we see online are nice-to-have, but do not move the needle as powerfully as the must-have foundational pillars of health: stress management, sleep, nutrition and movement.
What Is A Stress Management Coach?
We all experience stressors every day. But if these stressors build up in your body over time you start to experience the effects of chronic stress. Learn about how working with a stress management coach can help you develop a more positive relationship with stress, thus helping you feel better in all areas of life.
Don’t Set New Year’s Resolutions
It’s OK not to set New Year’s Resolutions, even with all the hype. Here we are in February and most people have already dropped their Resolutions, no shame in that. Instead of trying to force yourself to set giant goals during the magical slowness of winter, ask yourself these powerful questions instead. They will set you up for a much more amazing 2026.
Do you believe more in your obstacles, or more in your goals?
We often allow our brains to spend more time thinking about why we can’t do something, instead of spending time thinking about why it might be possible we can achieve our goal. Do you want to be someone who believes in her obstacles, or believes in her goals?
How To Fall Asleep Quickly - & Stay Asleep
It may seem impossible to fall asleep easily without jolting awake at 3am with our brain trying to solve all the world’s problems. While we can’t hack our way to better sleep, we can put 5 lifestyle habits in place to start sleeping better, today.
On Becoming A Selfish Giver
Growing up we are told it’s selfish to think of our own needs. While it’s true we do need to think of others and care for them, it’s not true that we need to burn ourselves out in the process. We can do both, care for others and ourselves. That is what it means to be a Selfish Giver.
30 Seconds Of Rest Can Improve Your Health
You don’t need a vacation or an entire day on the couch to rest. You can start with 30 second micro-rests today, to allow your body and brain to start feeling better.
5 Surprising Health Benefits Of Having A Mom-Hobby (A Mobby?)
Hobbies are more rewarding than just having something fun to display. Research has shown that having a hobby can improve your mood, lower stress, and even increase longevity. Doing activities you find enjoyable lowers stress hormones and helps regulate the nervous system. Two things that have a powerful impact on your health.
If You’re Always Stressed And Tired, Start Here
If you constantly feel overwhelmed, on edge, or straight up exhausted, this is where to start. In this post I share how adding a simple meditation routine in my car before work helped me feel calmer, more regulated and less reactive to my kids ⎯ without needing hours of free time.
If “Self-Care” Makes You Cringe, Try This Instead
Self care is critical for our mental and physical health. We need new ways to think about self care so we can start to feel better without feeling guilty or selfish. Follow these steps to begin taking care of yourself while you continue caring for everyone else, too.
Create Your Powerful Health & Wellness Vision
Creating your vision for health means getting specific about who you want to be and what you want to grow into in this one life. If you are looking for a first step you can take on your journey to a life of wellness, start here.
If You Struggle to Relax, This is What Your Body Needs
Rest isn’t only about sitting down and resting your physical body. It’s about resting in your body as well as resting in your thoughts. We often feel guilty or selfish when we are trying to relax because our thoughts are getting in the way. Here’s how to change that and begin to actually feel better when you rest.
a nursing superpower: presence
We can’t underestimate the power of being with our patients. Listening to them or squeezing their hand. This story shares how listening to one patient’s struggles helped them through one of their most vulnerable experiences.
starting a mindfulness practice
Learning mindfulness practices allows you to find peace in your brain, even when your kids are wrestling or bickering, very loudly. Mindfulness allows you to become aware of the positive emotions we are all looking to have more of in our lives like gratitude, joy, love and connection.
20 simple ways to improve your health today
All the small actions we take toward feeling better every day really do count in our body and the way our actual cells become healthier. It’s not about the big grand gestures like going to the gym once for 2 hours. It’s about getting back to the basic building blocks of health: movement, nourishing foods, rest, stress management, quality sleep, and social connections (give out all the hugs).
Forgetting To Take Care Of Yourself, Too
Most of my clients come to me with some version of: “I’ve been so busy taking care of other people, my kids at home, my parents, my patients at work…that I forgot to take care of myself!” It can feel very uncomfortable to start doing things for yourself after years of caring for others, but it can be done.
My Awesome Kid Teaching Me To Do The “Inner Work”
For me it can be really tough to feel what we’ve been told are “negative emotions.” It’s been an ongoing practice to learn to feel emotions like sadness and anger in my body and then let them go. But the healing during this process has allowed me to feel greater “positive emotions” like peace, certainty, joy, elation, and contentment. And it was because of my son that I learned how to do this in the first place.

